Marriage, traditionally, has been seen as a partnership, but modern expectations often create conflicts between individual needs and societal roles.
1. Increased Responsibilities and Stress:
Many men enter marriage expecting stability, comfort, and regular intimacy but may not anticipate the additional responsibilities. Work stress, financial burdens, and emotional labor can make them feel overwhelmed.
Open communication with their spouse about shared responsibilities and stress management can help ease this transition but often the wife might be overwhelmed with responsibilities herself and may not be able to communicate or be understanding .
Families can interfere and create misunderstandings which may not exist without the married set up.
Also, there maybe competitive needs that require financial adjustments and there has to be understanding that money , children and responsibilities will be shared after marriage.
2. Sex, Power, and Emotional Disconnect:
The historical conditioning of men associating sex with power or as a tool to release stress (as seen in war contexts) makes it difficult for some to transition into a loving, emotionally connected sexual relationship in marriage. This can lead to dissatisfaction or even infidelity as they seek familiar, emotionally detached experiences. They think having several partners is a matter of glory than self blame .
Conscious effort in emotional bonding, ability to understand psychodynamics of past life therapy, and redefining intimacy as a means of positive support than venting out with aloofness can help bridge this gap.
However,men are trained to be performers and find it difficult to pay attention to love more than perform. Gay relationships amongst men even thrive on abusing each other freely.
A non understanding wife or a wife who demands a lot more than they can give emotionally or financially may make them detached than feel loved.
Deconditioning war thinking becomes difficult for them as they have lived on earnings from wars in history . Competition is still glorified in their hearts over sharing and helping. There is no training given in schools to be more compassionate over competitive which, if given, can help them but the male centred world still loves sports and rituals more than inner peace or calmness. They worship the Gods but follow the war leaders . A situation like a marriage ,where more emotional understanding is required becomes a big challenge to their preoccupied professionally centred minds.
While women are trained to manage the marriage over the profession , men are trained to focus on the profession more than the marriage. Changing focus becomes a distressing problem leading to feelings of unhappiness or worthlessness .
As people enter the world of work, they are constantly confronted with stressful demands. Men may break promised loyalty vows to explore competitive power in a competitive work atmosphere while women may betray with a desire to find emotional support or due to past life carry-over relationships .
Only men who become spiritual and calm ,overtime ,can move back to inner harmony but most people choose to stay unhappy than become spiritual due to lack of a belief that happiness can exist . After past life soul healing therapy, people start believing happiness exists and can work towards it . Soul healing therapy helps men become less stressed and more self accepting with rising inner confidence.
3. Money, Power, and Control:
Men often feel a sense of power in earning money and may struggle with sharing it without expectations of control or dominance. When they feel they are providing financially, they may expect obedience or respect in return.
A healthy relationship should establish mutual respect, clear financial boundaries, and shared decision-making to avoid power struggles. However, families interfere a lot on how money should be spent and a lot of fights happen amongst married couples as they save money or they may spend on families instead of own needs of self love. Very often, men and women start hating their own selves after marriage as they feel they continually fall short of expectations of the spouse or family responsibilities.
4. Household Responsibilities and Fatigue:
The traditional expectation that men work outside and women manage the home has shifted significantly. In many modern marriages, men are expected to contribute to household chores, which can feel exhausting when combined with their professional workload. Both men or women require house help to cope with stress from professional work .
Several people have house-help but even then, emotional distances come due to expectations from each other which are based on past grudges , unrealistic expectations , family bias or cultural differences.
Also, some men or women may not like to spend on house help as they feel the wife is free ,if unemployed, for it ,but the wife may feel overwhelmed with the responsibility of supervising house, shopping, schools, children and needs of the man . As a result, there maybe fights about insignificant things based on arguments which do not matter rationally but become big due to exhaustion and frustrations over not having enough time or inner space to be.
Open discussions about fair division of labor, hiring help when possible, and mutual appreciation can prevent resentment from building up but this may require the ability to express oneself ,understand other perspectives , be able to spend money on help over shopping material things and keep family interference to the minimum which may not be easy skills to learn.
5. Fatherhood and Feeling Neglected:
The transition to fatherhood can be difficult for men who are used to being the center of their wife’s attention. When the child becomes the priority, some men may feel sidelined, leading to emotional withdrawal or even infidelity.
A lot of couples are choosing not to have children so that they can give full attention on their self development . People who have children enjoy the love and responsibilities they bring but may get into disagreements about upbringing with each other.
Understanding that this phase is temporary and finding ways to stay emotionally connected to their spouse can help maintain the marriage . This is possible if the woman understands that the man is pre occupied and takes get own decisions with confidence and if the man has the time and inclination to detach from his conditioned upbringing and look at the developmental side of life.
Solutions for Happier Marriages:
Past life therapy with soul healing and black magic removal can significantly reduce misunderstandings and increase forgiveness
Realistic Expectations: Men (and women) should enter marriage with a clear understanding of the emotional, financial, and practical responsibilities involved. This is not a dream boat but an emotional and business partnership to create a new Earth.
Healthy Communication: Expressing needs and accepting solutions , discussing expectations openly with investing money on each other's needs , and resolving conflicts constructively can strengthen the relationship.
Reframing Power and Control: Viewing marriage as a partnership rather than a power dynamic can lead to mutual respect and happiness.
Sexual and Emotional Awareness: Addressing emotional needs in intimacy, rather than relying on old patterns of detachment, can enhance marital satisfaction.
Support Networks: Seeking professional counseling, engaging in community discussions, or even having open conversations with trusted friends can provide guidance.
Past life soul healing helps in bringing back a soul recharge that helps in reducing exhaustion, extra marital affairs and renews hope of happiness in life .
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